It is well known that Jesus came in the form of man, and He experienced life on earth, going through all of the problems we go through, all of the hurt we go through, and experienced pain, suffering, and loss just like the rest of us. We all know this, but in the back of our minds is a thought that since Jesus is God made flesh, He really did not, or could not have gone through as much pain and suffering as we go through.
When thinking of how Jesus went through loss of personal relationships, two people come to mind. First is Joseph, his father. We do not know for sure what happened to Joseph, but we do know that Joseph was there when Jesus was twelve in the temple (Luke 2:28), then we never see him again in scripture. When Jesus was dying on the cross he tells John to take care of his mom, something Jesus would not have to do if his father was still alive (John 19:26-27). This also shows that Jesus cared about his mom, he wanted her to be well taken care of, something any of us would want.
Another powerful passage in the Bible is when Jesus’ close friend, Lazarus, died. Jesus got word that Lazarus was not feeling well and then after he died Jesus made his way to visit. Seeing the women weeping over Lazarus and then seeing the grave himself was too much for Jesus, and “Jesus wept” (John 11:35). This simple verse showing that Jesus had compassion, felt pain, even though he knew Lazarus would not be dead for much longer, it was still painful to him.
Isaiah 53:3 He was despised and rejected by mankind,
a man of suffering, and familiar with pain.
Like one from whom people hide their faces
he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.
I think it is downright impossible for us to understand the sacrifice that Jesus made on the cross. All to often I hear others, or even think in the back of my own mind, that what Jesus went through was bad but at least he knew the end result so it was not that bad. How wrong can we get? Not only did Jesus get tortured and executed, but his status with God was, for the first time in all existance, severed from the Father (Mark 15:34). Can you imagine what this would have been like? Do you think Jesus was anxious at all, or wished that he could avoid what was ahead?
Jesus did not want to go through with what was ahead and prayed for God to remove this trial from his only begotten son (John 22:42). Jesus, “being in agony, prayed more earnestly. Then His sweat became like great drops of blood falling down to the ground.” (John 22:44)
Yes, Jesus was human, he had compassion, felt the pain of loss felt great anxiety. Jesus went through the pain that we went through, even more so.
So why did He do it? Jesus prayed “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me: nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.” (John 22:42). Do you not think that the loving father would take such trials from His only begotten son? But he did not, why? Because it was the only way.
Isaiah 53:4-5 Surely He has borne our griefs
And carried our sorrows;
Yet we esteemed Him stricken,
Smitten by God, and afflicted.
But He was wounded for our transgressions,
He was bruised for our iniquities;
The chastisement for our peace was upon Him,
And by His stripes we are healed.
“He had offered one sacrifice for sins forever.” (Hebrews 10:12) Jesus died, do you really understand that? Jesus, our creator, was beaten, tortured, betrayed, and executed for you!
Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord,
2 Corinthians 7:10
Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.
John Piper, in Seeing and Savoring Jesus Christ writes
Therefore, this man of indestructible joy was “a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief” (Isaiah 53:3). “My soul is very sorrowful, even to death; remain here, and watch with me” (Matthew 26:38). This “great high priest” is not unable to sympathize with us in our weakness, becasue he was tested in every way as a man like us (Hebrews 4:14-15). He wept with those who wept (John 11:35) and rejoiced with those who rejoiced (Luke 10:27, 21). He was hungry (Matthew 4:2), he was weary (John 4:6), he was forsaken (Matthew 26:56), betrayed (Matthew 26:45), whipped (Matthew 27:26), mocked (Matthew 27:31), and crucified (Matthew 27:35).
Jesus can and did relate to us, he felt pain suffering and loss. Why did he go through all of this pain and suffering? Because only through Jesus can we be reconciled with God. Jesus went through all of that, only for you, what do you do for him?